Mindset: Shifting Perspective

Except you lay claim to some primary psychological knowledge, there is chance that every now and then you are in a rattle with your thoughts and falling out with your own actions. If no one has ever told you that your behavior defines you more than your thoughts do, then you have been barking up the wrong trees and doing a number on your relationships.


What goes on in your head is likely to produce an action. That is why perspective defines your very nature; how people see you and how you address situations. Hey, shifting perspective isn’t similar to a brain swap or total medical bypassing. It is simply organizing your thoughts for you to handle situations better, and for you to lead a more meaningful life. These thoughts will manifest in what become of your life.



Breathing may very well be an involuntary action that even happens in your sleep. But one thing you may not realize is the power of passing breath just to cool down. Ever seen an steaming engine? Cold water or a adequate supply of chill air will get it running like a perfectionist. For the number of limited breaths you have in a lifetime, make each of them count, Taking ten of them in that dire situation or in that array of controversy will do your temper a real solid.



When it seems (or even before) you are about to give in to rational thinking at the detriment of someone involved, don't just be reproachful, but empathetic. Taake smoke 30 seconds to have a walk in the person’s shoes and see how it hurts the toes. You never many the predicament of that person, and should you act according to what’s physically attainable, you may be ruffling feathers you never knew existed.


Be Journalistic

Ever heard of writing it down? Keeping a diary may sound outdated and near useless. But thank God to the advent of mobile apps, you don’t actually need pen and paper or have to store the journal away from sight. Alongside cool features you can use to spice up your writing, these diaries help you mostly live in the moment. When you your tension down in text, is sometimes reveals the truth behind the situation. Just like studying, you gradually will start realizing the deeper meaning of things and be able to respond better. And, never underestimate the power of words, even when written down.


Let Go

In as much as you are in control of your life, the universe has a bigger plan for you - something you cannot ever fight no matter how much effort you invest. You just need to have faith in the bigger picture and trust that there will be a lesson. Your purpose may elude you for now, but only for so long. One day, surely, it will all make sense, But for now, surrender and change that mindset - everything is going to turn out best. Always have positive thoughts, and let the law of attraction have its way.

Don't Forget To Laugh

Happiness is free. Even if you don't have it, at least fake it till you make it. Don’t scorch you gradually developing life into cinders with sadness and bitterness. As many as there could be reasons for an outcry, there is perhaps even much more reasons for you to not just be happy, but grateful. Whilst pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Always remember that mantra.


Tips for Surviving your Family this Holiday Season

Holidays are supposed to be seasons of cheer with families and friends coming together to share some love and memories.

While this is something common and fun, for some, it might just be another hard remainder of some worse days.

And for such group, depression is likely to set in – getting you over something you have dealt with over and over again.

Notwithstanding, considering that family time is a part of the season, it might be weird to find yourself being depressed while you should be lightened up around family.

Depending on settings peculiar to you, some rule of thumb that could help you stay lightened and survive your family this holiday season are:

#1. Be grateful.

While it is almost impossible to eliminate the factors of depression, you could channel your energy to be cheerful and give everyone you meet a smile.

Than dwell in the past that would neither change a thing nor make you better. You may want to see gratitude as the only validation for you to spend the holiday with family. 

In the process of being thankful, you should look for something amazing about you that you are comfortable to share. Once you share something good about yourself, you develop some sense of worthiness and self-love.

And by consistently doing that during the holiday, you will off the hook of depression.

To increase your chance of commitment to it, you can make it like a challenge. Like seven days of gratitude.

Counting our blessings helps us remain grateful to even the worse persons.

#2. Take time for you

With all the preparation for the various celebrations, it is easy to get loss in work and forget yourself.

The best way to recharge your self is to give yourself sufficient space and time away from everyone and everything.

It will help you to focus on your goal of remaining happy amidst the busyness of the season. Remember, you’re making a lifetime commitment to remain happy regardless of the circumstance.

#3. Put the family to work.

Delegate, assign tasks and put the family to work. Do not become machinery, after all, it’s a season to share in love, work together, play together and reminiscence together.

This way, they are useful and less toxic, for the ones there are.

#4. Keep it simple

Keeping your holiday expectation simple and less ideal would help you remain happy even when the holiday didn’t go as you expect.

Keeping your expectation simple would help you remain grateful rather than running round issues within yourself and trying to feel you’re the reason the holiday didn’t go well.

Do the needful and don't try to go overboard.

#5. Plan ahead of the season.

Make plans for what you need and get them.

It will help reduce the bulk of work later on.

Making plans helps give you control over yourself, and this will help you calm.

Remember to try and enjoy the holidays.

Take time for yourself. There is no crime in that. Reach out if you are feeling down.